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I quit my job, had managers cry, went to get food at my favourite place, got recruited to consult during their staff meeting, was subsequently borderline plied with free booze, and then lovingly forced into the back of a cab by the staff that wanted me to go out with them. 

I declined, stayed back, and ended up dancing on top of the bar with the bartender after it closed to the Backstreet Boys. 

This morning I went to collect my car (because never drink and drive folks), and was granted free “I’m sorry we basically assaulted you with love while drunk” breakfast by the manager. 

I don’t party, but I’ve got to say, that is one hell of a way to quit my job, and I regret nothing.

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17/09/14 @ 06:23pm
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Quitting your job and having three managers cry and bear hug you. And now the small group of people that know are just awkwardly staring me down like I’m a wounded child.

But hey, I’ll have weekends again soon!))

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@ 01:43pm
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[ ^_^ Excellent. you deserve them. And man, I’m so happy for you!]

{Me too. Part of me is sad, but even then it’s minimally so. I’m just so, so, over the retail life. And I’m working for my cousin, so at least I know I can trust them going in.}

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@ 01:36pm
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{I like how I celebrated by booking a dentist appointment because I gotta use my benefits up. Fuckton of massages coming my way, yo!}

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@ 12:47pm
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New job! Weekends! No evenings, 3 weeks vacation. I’m just…NO MORE RETAIL!!!

If you need me, I’ll be happy crying in the corner))

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I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

  • A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly
  • He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out
  • But he doesn’t do that to guys, and
  • He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and
  • When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable
  • And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space
  • and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness
  • And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy
  • So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills
  • And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women
  • And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

  • Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.
  • Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

  • Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.
  • Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 
  • Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness
  • Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong
  • Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

  • If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t
  • Listen to them about what they tell you
  • If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.
  • If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men
  • Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable
  • If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose
  • Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t tolerate give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

another variant: the ‘quirky’ guy who passes off his creepy predatory behaviors as ‘unique’ and ‘misunderstood,’ generally considered a harmlessly pretentious type by other men


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David Tennant with his wife


David Tennant without his wife



She’s back!


I’ve been laughing at this for three years

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12/09/14 @ 03:33pm
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"Won’t you teach me how to love and learn."


Sentence meme: Bastille Edition

"What more of love can I teach that you don’t understand at least as well as I do, if not better?”

"This is fair." She sighs. "Sometimes I feel I lack patience, and I suppose I would appreciate your support in naming it when you see it. I’m not a child, and yet sometimes I am just as guilty of needing my behaviour corrected. Because in love in compassion there is no hurry, only the willingness to wait, and I’m sorry I still struggle with that from time to time."

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"Are you drifting way beyond what’s normal?"

"I don’t know what normal is, my love. Not anymore, that is" She tilts her head and eyes him curiously. "Why? Are you worried for me?"

Loki I bow to your greatness.


"But apparently cannot summon the humility to address me properly."

"Now, now, dear. Don’t be testy."

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10/09/14 @ 11:08pm


and that’s how son got schooled